Go With the Flow!

All of us have different ways  to live and deal with the life and its problems.
There are different philosophies,  theories, methods, ways and mechanisms that suggest to solve the problems and control the situations in our favor, but  No matter how much structure we create in our lives, no matter how many good habits we build, there will always be things that we cannot control — and if we let them, these things can be a huge source of anger, frustration and stress.
A lot has happened with me in the last several months.
While there were great moments like I’ve scored amongst top 30 in a grand  national cooking competition, had musical concert with famous mika singh, scored amongst top 3  in a swimming competition, managed getting decent marks in exams, earned several hundred thousand dollars, a lot of wonderful business trips around the world, hang out with friends, so much of chatter with friends on phone and internet messangers, porn movies and  dirty stuff etc,
I’ve had severe health issues, business losses, conflicts with business partners, family issues, hacking of servers,  workloads,  and actually a whole bunch of difficult things.
One of these days, during a telephonic conversation a friend asked me what do I think is the best approach for dealing with life’s problems, and I’ve answered what I’ve been always telling to everyone, “learn to go with the flow!”
this  brought an interesting debate whether one should go with the flow or against the flow?
According to her,  its better to go against the flow.  She thinks that Change is inevitable, yes. But don’t think for a minute that humans don’t have control
over it, because we do. As the species in charge of this earth, we are artisans of change. Just look at what Al Gore has undertaken in the name of extending
the life on our planet. Just look at how far the human race has come.
Interesting perspective  isn’t it?
I, however still believe in going with the flow.

when I say “go with the flow” it does not symbolize “following the majority” or to silence my opinions.

To go with the flow is  rolling with the punches.  accepting change without getting angry or frustrated.  taking what life gives you,

rather than trying to mold life to be exactly as you want it to be.

I use “go with the flow” as a mantra, an optimism and a life style. To go with the flow is to accept all of the noise, energy, and joy that life brings. The good, bad, unexpected, and painful times are going to come at us no matter what; how we chose to react to them shapes who we are. 

For example, let’s say you’ve created the perfect peaceful morning routine. You’ve structured your mornings so that you do things that bring you calm and

happiness. And then a water pipe bursts in your bathroom and you spend a stressful morning trying to clean up the mess and get the pipe fixed.

Suppose you found heavy traffic jam on your way to office, and you got late in reaching the office.

You have a very important assignment to complete, and suddenly you found that the system has crashed.

You get angry. You are disappointed, because you didn’t get to do your morning routine. You are stressed from all these changes to what you’re used to.

It ruins your day because you are frustrated for the rest of the day.

Not the best way to handle things, is it? And yet if we are honest, most of us have problems like this, with things that disrupt how we like things, with

people who change what we are used to, with life when it doesn’t go the way we want it to go.

The best way, in such situations is to accept the realities and finding the next best solution rather getting stuck and disappointed.

Someone once said that the successful people do not do different things, they just do the things differently!

Its all about keep moving no matter what, keeping optimism alive, having faith on yourself, and of course think creatively.

There’s a poem that summarise most of what i’ve been able to learn  from the life till now:

It is the most natural

To be yourself.

But it is also arduous

To keep your sense

Of being authentic

And being unique

Among the authorities

In the world of technique

Until you discover

That all is in you:

Every knowledge and answer,

And the Source of the True

As well as the harmony

You sought from outside -

Your inner reality

Holds the true paradise.

If you only believe it,

Overflow it with light

And remove what is weediest,

Growing seeds of delight

You could hope for the richest

Harvest - bringing in Love

And enjoy the achievements,

Which are treasures above.

That is how you’ll be wealthy,

But as free as the wind,

Always new and ascending

To the higher beliefs.

Yes, you could be a fighter

In the quest of the soul

But it will be much lighter,

If you go with the flow!

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hey, i'm back!

Hey, so I’m back!

However unbelievable that it might be, this is indeed me, writing on this blog after ages!

wow. It's been ages since I've last written here. I wasn't even sure this account would work. I almost thought it didn't when an ad page came up with a

tiny link for 'No Thanks' before it continued.

A lot has happened since I’ve last written here, everywhere, and with everyone!

The life treated me   somewhat fair and somewhat harsh, but for sure  its been an intresting and a learning time all together.

I’ve actually almost forgotten that I have a blog here, and you’d also have forgotten for that matter. no?  However, there’s an interesting story how I got back here today.

These days, I’m having blows with the health. blows that have highly affected my work and efficiency.

Recently,  I’ve had a real bad cough and cold, and I have completely lost my voice–people can’t even understand me when I whisper. This is, of course, highly

Ironic, as each time I talk to someone, I need to give prove that its me!

and I cannot even speak

one word!

. I’m doing a lot of listening and keeping silent, and as I do so, I realize how frequently

words are used to explain ourselves, prove ourselves, justify ourselves.

I just imagined how terrible it could be if I ever go mute, and it is this realization that I decided to write here, as keeping silent is just not possible for the chatterboxes like me!

And now, while writing this post I’m realizing that I should write more often.

Besides the reasons of health, I’ve also found that there are so many things that I’ve not been able to share with anyone, and this blog is the best place to write them out. Hence,   I’m not promising anything at this point, but I’m definetly going to try that I write here more often!

Oh, and as I just said that I’ve learned a great deal from the last  several months, I’m reminiscing  a  song that will sum this up quite well:

Sing me a song, you're a singer

Do me a wrong, you're a bringer

The Devil is never a maker

The less that you give, you're a taker

So it's on and on and on

...it's Heaven and Hell, oh well

The lover of life's not a sinner

The ending is just a beginner

The closer you get to the meaning

The sooner you'll know that you're dreaming

So it's on and on and on

Oh it's on and on and on

It goes on and on and on, Heaven and Hell

I can tell, fool, fool!

Well, if it seems to be real, it's illusion

For every moment of truth, there's confusion

Love can be seen as the answer

But nobody bleeds for the dancer

And it's on and on, on and on and on....

They say that life's a carousel

Spinning fast, you've got to ride it well

The world is full of Kings and Queens

Who blind your eyes then steal your dreams

...it's Heaven and Hell, oh well

And they'll tell you black is really white

The moon is just the sun at night

And when you walk in golden halls

You get to keep the gold that falls

It's Heaven and Hell

Oh well,

So it's on and on and on

Oh it's on and on and on

It goes on and on and on, Heaven and Hell

I can tell, fool, fool!

Hope, Love, Life!

There are two types of people in this world, based on how an individual considers and approaches other people, events and opportunities; based on how they approach life. On one side is the eternal optimist, while the other side has the cynical pessimist. Well, there is also a third type - for those who oscillate between the two approaches; but that's just transitional! I have always been an optimist. A full blown, self declared, I-don't-know-another-way-to-live-life kind of optimist. That attitude has helped me at every step of my life. That, coupled with hard work, is what helped me to dream of being where i'm today, and actually get to where i'm today. That again is what is helping me continue to dream further, and work towards these unknown arenas. And when I find myself in a deep hole, a mountain too high to scale, a fight too bleak to win, a path too dark to tread – this is exactly what helps me through. This attitude has occasionally landed me in trouble – because I simply see the good in people and start off relationships with trust and take for granted the other person's trust. But on the other side, the positive attitude helped me spot opportunities, stick with them during difficulties, utilize them best, and always keep improving, without stagnating at any point.

Aaah – speaking of opportunities. Well, they have a mind of their own. They show up at your door when they please, stay with you for as long as they like and are very picky with who they want to stay with. It needs a lot of skill and vision to identify them when they show up, and a lot more patience and effort to win over them, own them and make them stay with you! The bigger the opportunity is – the higher the effort and the longer the process. And if you do something that pisses of Ms. Opportunity, you're in for some serious trouble!

Well – if it is not evident yet, I managed to piss off a very important, life-impacting Ms. Opportunity! I am in a deep hole, in a pitch dark corner, with a tall mountain to climb – and from where I am, this looks like a very long and difficult fight! And yes – like always, I am stubbornly optimistic, and eternally hopeful. Unfortunately, our relationships with some opportunities don't have the best beginnings, but as long as you are committed to it and continue to put in the time and effort – most opportunities have the best of endings. I truly believe and hope this is one has one such happy ending too.

At this juncture, I want to quote Ms. Elizabeth Gilbert,
famous American novelist and author of " Eat, Pray, Love: One Woman's Search for Everything Across Italy, India and Indonesia", the book that's been on the NYTimes best seller list for more than 100 weeks! She said something that resonates deeply with me –
"To sit patiently with a yearning that has not yet been fulfilled, and to trust that, that fulfillment will come, is quite possibly one of the most powerful "magic skills" that human beings are capable of. It has been noted by almost every ancient wisdom tradition." She talks about a few things here – patience, yearning, trust, hope; all that comes with the territory, when you're an optimist.

The thing is, moments like these show you how much you want a certain opportunity. It is one thing making largesse statements about pursuing something forever, while it is another thing to stay committed to it when the end looks bleak! Even more so when everything around you seems to fall apart (bad things come in heaps don't they) and you find yourself digging deeper and deeper! I've had a difficult time, but it has also put everything in perspective for me. I've had time to think about myself, people around me, where I'm heading in life and what's important for me going forward in life. There's a lot more clarity, more sense of purpose and direction and an overwhelming feeling that "this is it"! I am more committed than ever to what I want to do. And with it, there is this calmness - of knowing what I want to do, and knowing that I will do what I want to do without the slightest of doubts in my head.

Speaking in Ms. Elizabeth Gilbert's words, as my set my sail on course for this pursuit, I just want to sign off saying "In this dark moment, with this challenge ahead of me – I'm gonna be patient with my yearning, with the trust that my hope will come true – hopefully sooner than later!"

PS:
You can wish me luck if you want, i'm sure that the good wishes helps, even if the science does not believe in this that much.

happy new year!

Hello! its 2012 on the calendar now, means the 2011 is no more.
In the words of the rabbit, I'm late!!! It's almost the end of the fifth day of 2012 and I'm late wishing you folks here!
How strange it feels to me the post that I’ve written in the January of last year, (2011), where I’ve scribbled my first post of that year, memorizing the events of the year 2010, and now, it’s a yet another year!
I feel like time has passed really so dam quick this year, but just yesterday when I told exactly this to a friend, she gave me a pretty philosophical, still convincing answer, –
Time has not passed faster. That is only an illusion caused by my hectic, kayotic life. I’ve done so much at a time and so fast that time seemed like passing faster and faster. If I would have stopped for a while and just appreciated the moment, time would seem to pass much slower.
I'm kinda inclined to her answer, but still confused how is that possible.
Anyways, whether or not I realize,
Another year has gone. A very eventful year indeed. We bade our farewell to many people and welcomed many into this world. We made Anna the superhero of today and sang Kolaveri Di for no specific reason. Two young boys lost their lives while protecting their girl friends. People were getting ready to play censors for internet users. Salman’s Bodyguard did what Shahrukh’s Ra.1 and Don 2 couldn’t. etc
well so, it’s a new year.
Beginning of new friendships and endings of a few..
A ray of new found love with a pinch of being left by an old beau..
Finding new career ways & leaving the old ones..
Smiling in happy times & crying when got burnt..
Learning a new chapter with each passing day &
forgetting it the next..
Loving those late night conversations and those all time favorite texts..
Birth of little nephews and nieces..
& the death of those near ones who left us with broken pieces..
Some happy and some hard times..
the happy ones filled love, while the hard ones made me the diamond that shines..
This one year was a lot to handle..
But, Yes I am on for yet another Gamble!

Recently, I watched a wonderful ad of Coca Cola that talks so much about optimism prevailing over pessimism, people fighting for good over bad. Yes, the day may not be smoke free yet but hey! we are still wishing everyone on a new year. We are still wishing and hoping and dreaming about an unknown year.
There is a sense to optimism in everybody and that is what makes me feel good about it.

Its time for us to walk towards our dreams.
What a better present for self can be other than identifying your right priorities and work out plans to achieve during the year. No, I don't have anything to quit but I actually want to adopt a few. Some good habits I shall try to adopt.
Top amongst them is a better time management, where I believe I’m lacking somewhat.
Also, I’m hoping to do better with my IT company, learn new lessons of life and discover some more amazing friends.
Actually, the list of things that I’d like to adopt is fairly big, perhaps I’ll do another post on that.

What would you like to adopt this year? You can tell via comments section if you like.

So much to hope and so much to dream about! So many moments and so many walks! The journey continues as you smile at your past with love and starts flirting with future. Give yourself a present, live to dream, live to be alive. Today is always new. Relish it! May the best happen to all of you always! Spoil yourself with love!
Happy New Year, 2012!

a terrible day!

Almost everyone of us had bad days in office, and I’m no exception at all.
Though I have had so many bad days in office before, but this recent one was really weird and twitchy.
Before I can tell you what happened to me, I first must bore you with a few technicalities of my job.

I’m working as managing director for an IT company established by myself, called daedal technovations pvt. ltd. the company works to develop a wide range of IT solutions ranging from software applications, web solutions, internet marketing, search engine optimization, IT consultancy, training and education etc.
Obviously, the office consists of several computer systems, without which you can’t imagine an IT company at all.
All the computers and other devices deployed at the office use electricity and we are not using any backup devices except UPSs attached with almost each of the computers.


It was Monday, around 8:30 in the morning, I reached in the office after a relaxing weekend.
All set to work, i’ve started the computers, the servers, printers, as well as other necessary devices in order to start working.
I’ve started looking the day’s to-do list, opened email account, entered user name and password, and just when i’ve hit enter on sign in, the power went off all of a sudden.
Oh no! it was dark all around, UPS beeping and also, sound of heavy rain drops poring outside
I kept checking the emails expecting that the power will get back in a few minutes.
I kept on checking, responding, and writing new emails to staff, clients and others as my daily routine.
The beeps of the UPS got faster and faster, and finally it has given the last beep so I had to turn the computer off before it could do by itself.
I still wasn’t that worried, and have been thinking that this power cut is momentarily
Minutes turned into hour and I’ve started getting calls from clients asking me to send their works. I just assured them to send shortly and continued waiting for power to come.
There wasn’t anyone other then me and a peon at office, because it has been raining so high outside and people couldn’t come.
I thought to listen some music for time pass, so turned my laptop on. Heard few songs, and goodness, it has beeped for low battery.
My next option to kill the time was mobilephone, where I had copied some good new songs just on Sunday.
Played few of them, and my luck, it has also shown “low battery” status.
Actually, I just forgot to charge my laptop and mobile phone due to relaxing ambiance of weekend. 

Oh no!
It was 11:00 on the clock, and I was left with no further option to amuse myself.
The rain was continuing with the same high pace, so noone could come to the office still, neither I could go out anywhere

Monday, uncertain powercut, clients shouting for their work, dark in the room, heavy rain outside, all alone in office, unable to talk with anyone, mobilephone and laptops discharged, bored, scared, bemused and helpless, still waiting for the power to get back, it was really so awful.

Trust me, I just kept on waiting forlorn for something better to happen, but neither the rain got stop so that I could run off from this place, nor the electricity restored so that I could work.
Trust me, i’ve waited till around 4:30 in the evening when the rain got lower and i finally got a chance to come out and get back home.

Gosh, what a terrible experience it was.

The incidence made me to think that Electricity has become such an integral part of our daily lives, yet it is easy to take it for granted. Practically everything we do revolves around electricity
in one way or another. What would happen if we woke up tomorrow and there was no electricity available? Would our lives change that much? Let’s consider
the various activities that would be affected if electricity disappeared one morning.

If you set your alarm clock the night before to wake you up in the morning, chances are you probably slept in. Unless you happen to have an alarm clock
that is powered by batteries, you will be likely to awake late to a powerless alarm clock. Even if your alarm clock has a battery backup, how many of
us really check to make sure the batteries aren’t dead on a regular basis?

After you light a candle so you don’t have to stumble around your house, you may find yourself heading straight to the kettle to make a cup of tea. You
can imagine your frustration when you go to boil the kettle only to be denied by a lack of power.

Now it is time to shower and get ready for work. If you have an electric shower you will immediately encounter a problem because it won’t work. If you
use an electric shaver likewise, hopefully you have a disposable razor stashed somewhere to use as a backup. There are other morning related accessories
that require electricity including your hair dryer.

Tired, Overslept, no coffee, no shower - bad day at work
Getting to work is going to be a nightmare. If it is wintertime it will be dark and there will be no streetlights. Think about the number of traffic lights
that you pass through during your commute. Every one of these lights is likely to be shutdown. Even if they have a backup power source, chances are that
they are reliant on electricity in one form of the other. They probably won’t be working properly anyway as most these days are controlled by a computer
system, which will be likely to have shut down.

After sitting through hours of traffic you may finally make it to work. Depending on what you do for a living, there might not be much work for you to
take care of. Fax machines, computers, and many other pieces of office machinery will be out of service unless your company has a backup generator. That
will leave you sitting in a dark office chatting with the rest of your fellow co-workers who were able to make it in.

As you climb into your car to head home, the low petrol light pops on when you turn on the engine. The traffic that you endured going into work has depleted
your fuel supply. While it might seem easy enough to stop at the petrol station, remember that the fuel pumps are powered by electricity and the computer
tills will all have stopped working.
No petrol = Mad Max!

By the time you do get home, the thought of a nice cold bottle of beeror softdrink from the fridge will seem pretty good. Too bad that bottle of beer is no longer
cold. Whatever food you have in your refrigerator and freezer is likely to go bad quickly with no electricity to keep it cold. Hopefully you don’t have
a microwave or an electric range to cook with. Neither appliance will do you much good in this situation. A quick look through your camping gear may
reveal an old cooking stove that you can easily prepare meals on.

Clearly life as we know it would change completely without electricity. It is easy to think of all the little things we would have to do without if electricity
ceased to exist. Along with all of the luxuries like TV, there are many bigger and more vital things that would be affected by the lack of electricity.

Think about your drinking water. Chances are it is run through some type of purification plant before it ever reaches you. If there is no electricity to power the different systems that a purification plant relies on, there will be no clean water to drink. The same can be said for our waste disposal
plants. Think about what would happen if all of our waste began to build up; cities would start to stink.
All the water will be horrible as well….

Hospitals would barely function without electricity. There are numerous different machines that doctors rely on to help diagnose different ailments. There
are also machines that are used to monitor certain vital signs during procedures. Without electricity, illnesses could go undetected and patients could
fall into cardiac arrest without anyone noticing.

The food industry has greatly benefited from the use of electricity. Think of the sophisticated packaging plants that exist and the different types of machinery
that each one relies on. How would we get food from the farm into each of our houses without electricity?

While so many aspects of our lives would be altered without electricity, it is not the end of the world, but the consequences would be pretty disastrous.
Economies would collapse and there would be major public unrest. There would certainly be growing pains as we discovered new ways to accomplish different
tasks. It is important to realise that we existed for thousands of years before electricity became a major influence in our lives. We would eventually
figure out how to exist without it once again.

Just looking back at a few of the daily activities, there are already alternatives for some of the obstacles we might encounter. Open fires can be used
to cook our food and candles can be used to provide light where it is needed.

It is easy to see all of the bad things that would happen if we were to lose our electricity. What might not be so obvious are the good things that might
happen. If we are forced to walk more instead of driving our cars everywhere, our health would improve. Without things like cars and factories emitting
greenhouse gasses, our planet would be much healthier.

Having said that it wouldn’t be much fun and life as we are used to living it would be gone.

Oof, I’m tarified just by thinking about it, but then, we better have to be ready for any.
Calamity. The incidence has given me this lesson that how important it is to have backup batteries, power generators and other backup devices.
Also, I now have brought a non electrical guitar, drum and some other instruments in office so that I can do something productive when something similar happens again. Oh, but I still hope that my luck won’t be that dam adverse to let me see this all again!

life goes on!

Today, When it's pouring outside and I’m looking at a misty glass, trying to figure out what lies beyond, I seemed to have gone to that Zen moment, where nothing matters and
still everything matters.


We have one life and it can be as simple as a line drawn on the black board and still it ends up feeling complicated.
like a painting by toddler, you think it means something but when asked he will only surprise you with what it is supposed to mean!

You think you are in peace with yourself, with your life but often you think that way is not enough for that to last.

One life... and still why should it take us so long to figure it out, to figure ourselves, and sometimes even that does not happen..

And yes relationships.... that make life so interesting.

They make you feel loved, they make you feel drowned, they make you feel useless, they make you feel hated, they make you feel pampered and they can even
make you feel like living forever or may be never!

Why do we loose friends?
Why do we fall in love?
Why do we fight with the ones we love?
Why do people break our hearts?
Why relations which don’t matter makes us cry?
Why do we have to pretend at times?
Why do we feel the need to run away some times?
Why do some plans never see the sunlight?
And why do the unplanned take the flight?

Life is eroded with vain vapours of emotions, Twists, turns, changes, incomprehensible Pains, thrusts, pillories, stings, bewilderment, frustration, and hordes of complexities,
But with all these, there also is love, amity, pleasure, valor, passion, dreams, ambitions, achievements, and success.
Believe it or not, the life has to go on in all the situations, whether we act as cowards or heroes. Life has no other discipline to impose, if we would but realize it, than to accept life unquestioningly.
Everything we shut our eyes to, everything we run away from, everything we deny, denigrate or despise, serves to defeat us in the end. What seems nasty,
painful, evil, can become a source of beauty, joy, and strength, if faced with an open mind. Every moment is a golden one for him who has the vision to recognize it as such.



May be that's what the LIFE is all about.

Take The Good With The Bad,
Smile With The Sad,
Love What You Got & Remember What You Had,
Always Forgive But Never Forget,
Learn From Your Mistakes But Never Regret,
People Change & Things Go Wrong…
But Just Remember, That Life Goes On!

its me, yet again!

Hmm, so It’s been 2 months. Two. Whole. Months. And a little bit more. And I totally take the blame for being missing all this while. What? There could be other
reasons yes? Not in this case really, here it’s just me, but there could be. That’s all I am saying.
I believe that I deserve to be banished from blogdom. Yes, I really do. Such long sabbaticals and so many times, can only be punished with some severe banishment.
I think.

But you can’t! Nobody can! Actually, blogger can, but it won’t. So here I am. Shamefaced, but nonetheless, back. Unless I lose my password or something,
which will catastrophic, but then there is always a ‘forgot password’ option to get me back on track, except, what if I forget the password to the email
account linked to this blog as well, in which case I am royally screwed. There is this secret question thing I know, which by the way is a total shame and
will not work, because very recently, when I tried resetting my ‘My Vodafone’ password after 3 years (yes 3 years, because I am suddenly in need of my bills,
because work makes me call Godforsaken Basel, and that costs quite a bit, so cost means reimbursement, which means need for a bill, which means an account
, because the hard copies go to my first ever office address, and fixing that needs faxing some docs, or visiting a store or something, which is much more
painful. You get the idea.), I realised that I the registered email id was from my old workplace. Pshaw. So no password, no email id. Yeah, so I tried
the secret question thing, and as always it was my mother’s name. Simple eh? Only, no it isn’t! Because when I punched in her name , it refused to accept
it. Finally it said, it would send me the answer to my phone. Yes, there was a ‘forgot secret answer’ option as well. And when I clicked that, I got an
SMS saying my mother’s name was ‘Sunitha’. Only, it is not. And also, I do not know any other Sunitha, and even if I did, I would not randomly change my
mom’s name to that, or name said person as my mom, and I would definitely not add the ‘h’ after the ‘t’ because, well, I think it is wrong. Sunitha comes
with a ‘chota t’ and not a ‘bada th’ and don’t ask me why I am telling you all this.

By the way, on a depressing note, I am working today. How I hate working on weekends..(especially when others at home are relaxing in the bed!)…

Song on my mind and in my ears – Pal by K.K. – inspired by a dream I saw last night, which you can guess now, if you relate it to the song. These days I have
been doom-dreaming quite often.. I wonder what it reflects..
Whatever…Do I care.. As someone told me once… “Eat, drink and enjoy…for tomorrow you may die(t).”
:D

By the way, me and two friends are planning to watch some French movie tomorrow..I don’t know the name..nothing.. will update once I watch it!