Go With the Flow!

All of us have different ways  to live and deal with the life and its problems.
There are different philosophies,  theories, methods, ways and mechanisms that suggest to solve the problems and control the situations in our favor, but  No matter how much structure we create in our lives, no matter how many good habits we build, there will always be things that we cannot control — and if we let them, these things can be a huge source of anger, frustration and stress.
A lot has happened with me in the last several months.
While there were great moments like I’ve scored amongst top 30 in a grand  national cooking competition, had musical concert with famous mika singh, scored amongst top 3  in a swimming competition, managed getting decent marks in exams, earned several hundred thousand dollars, a lot of wonderful business trips around the world, hang out with friends, so much of chatter with friends on phone and internet messangers, porn movies and  dirty stuff etc,
I’ve had severe health issues, business losses, conflicts with business partners, family issues, hacking of servers,  workloads,  and actually a whole bunch of difficult things.
One of these days, during a telephonic conversation a friend asked me what do I think is the best approach for dealing with life’s problems, and I’ve answered what I’ve been always telling to everyone, “learn to go with the flow!”
this  brought an interesting debate whether one should go with the flow or against the flow?
According to her,  its better to go against the flow.  She thinks that Change is inevitable, yes. But don’t think for a minute that humans don’t have control
over it, because we do. As the species in charge of this earth, we are artisans of change. Just look at what Al Gore has undertaken in the name of extending
the life on our planet. Just look at how far the human race has come.
Interesting perspective  isn’t it?
I, however still believe in going with the flow.

when I say “go with the flow” it does not symbolize “following the majority” or to silence my opinions.

To go with the flow is  rolling with the punches.  accepting change without getting angry or frustrated.  taking what life gives you,

rather than trying to mold life to be exactly as you want it to be.

I use “go with the flow” as a mantra, an optimism and a life style. To go with the flow is to accept all of the noise, energy, and joy that life brings. The good, bad, unexpected, and painful times are going to come at us no matter what; how we chose to react to them shapes who we are. 

For example, let’s say you’ve created the perfect peaceful morning routine. You’ve structured your mornings so that you do things that bring you calm and

happiness. And then a water pipe bursts in your bathroom and you spend a stressful morning trying to clean up the mess and get the pipe fixed.

Suppose you found heavy traffic jam on your way to office, and you got late in reaching the office.

You have a very important assignment to complete, and suddenly you found that the system has crashed.

You get angry. You are disappointed, because you didn’t get to do your morning routine. You are stressed from all these changes to what you’re used to.

It ruins your day because you are frustrated for the rest of the day.

Not the best way to handle things, is it? And yet if we are honest, most of us have problems like this, with things that disrupt how we like things, with

people who change what we are used to, with life when it doesn’t go the way we want it to go.

The best way, in such situations is to accept the realities and finding the next best solution rather getting stuck and disappointed.

Someone once said that the successful people do not do different things, they just do the things differently!

Its all about keep moving no matter what, keeping optimism alive, having faith on yourself, and of course think creatively.

There’s a poem that summarise most of what i’ve been able to learn  from the life till now:

It is the most natural

To be yourself.

But it is also arduous

To keep your sense

Of being authentic

And being unique

Among the authorities

In the world of technique

Until you discover

That all is in you:

Every knowledge and answer,

And the Source of the True

As well as the harmony

You sought from outside -

Your inner reality

Holds the true paradise.

If you only believe it,

Overflow it with light

And remove what is weediest,

Growing seeds of delight

You could hope for the richest

Harvest - bringing in Love

And enjoy the achievements,

Which are treasures above.

That is how you’ll be wealthy,

But as free as the wind,

Always new and ascending

To the higher beliefs.

Yes, you could be a fighter

In the quest of the soul

But it will be much lighter,

If you go with the flow!

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hey, i'm back!

Hey, so I’m back!

However unbelievable that it might be, this is indeed me, writing on this blog after ages!

wow. It's been ages since I've last written here. I wasn't even sure this account would work. I almost thought it didn't when an ad page came up with a

tiny link for 'No Thanks' before it continued.

A lot has happened since I’ve last written here, everywhere, and with everyone!

The life treated me   somewhat fair and somewhat harsh, but for sure  its been an intresting and a learning time all together.

I’ve actually almost forgotten that I have a blog here, and you’d also have forgotten for that matter. no?  However, there’s an interesting story how I got back here today.

These days, I’m having blows with the health. blows that have highly affected my work and efficiency.

Recently,  I’ve had a real bad cough and cold, and I have completely lost my voice–people can’t even understand me when I whisper. This is, of course, highly

Ironic, as each time I talk to someone, I need to give prove that its me!

and I cannot even speak

one word!

. I’m doing a lot of listening and keeping silent, and as I do so, I realize how frequently

words are used to explain ourselves, prove ourselves, justify ourselves.

I just imagined how terrible it could be if I ever go mute, and it is this realization that I decided to write here, as keeping silent is just not possible for the chatterboxes like me!

And now, while writing this post I’m realizing that I should write more often.

Besides the reasons of health, I’ve also found that there are so many things that I’ve not been able to share with anyone, and this blog is the best place to write them out. Hence,   I’m not promising anything at this point, but I’m definetly going to try that I write here more often!

Oh, and as I just said that I’ve learned a great deal from the last  several months, I’m reminiscing  a  song that will sum this up quite well:

Sing me a song, you're a singer

Do me a wrong, you're a bringer

The Devil is never a maker

The less that you give, you're a taker

So it's on and on and on

...it's Heaven and Hell, oh well

The lover of life's not a sinner

The ending is just a beginner

The closer you get to the meaning

The sooner you'll know that you're dreaming

So it's on and on and on

Oh it's on and on and on

It goes on and on and on, Heaven and Hell

I can tell, fool, fool!

Well, if it seems to be real, it's illusion

For every moment of truth, there's confusion

Love can be seen as the answer

But nobody bleeds for the dancer

And it's on and on, on and on and on....

They say that life's a carousel

Spinning fast, you've got to ride it well

The world is full of Kings and Queens

Who blind your eyes then steal your dreams

...it's Heaven and Hell, oh well

And they'll tell you black is really white

The moon is just the sun at night

And when you walk in golden halls

You get to keep the gold that falls

It's Heaven and Hell

Oh well,

So it's on and on and on

Oh it's on and on and on

It goes on and on and on, Heaven and Hell

I can tell, fool, fool!