say it! that's the best way out

What have you been saying to the one you love? Do you tell
him or her how you feel, romantically, I mean? Many of us find it
hard to express our romantic or sexual feelings. We are afraid to
seem too needy, too infatuated, too pushy or too horny. Meanwhile,
inside we are filled with desire, passion, and a need to be as
close, as intimate, as we can be to the one we love. So what do
we do? What do we say?
Words come hard when we are face to face with the person we
love. Words come a bit easier on the phone. And they seem to be
easiest to express in writing. Cards, E-mail, letters are a lot
easier to compose. When you write to someone, you can take your
time putting into words exactly what you want to say. Many times
when you are face to face or on the phone, your nerves get in the
way of you thoughts and your tongue. You might say the wrong thing
or say something you feel but which comes out all wrong. One
positive aspect of saying it live is that you sometimes get instant
feedback and you can quickly correct any misstatements or
misunderstandings. If you send something by mail, your words sit
there in your loved one's face and he or she is left wondering what
you mean by them.
It's good to talk. If you feel good about what someone has
said or written to you, or how their affection and attention have
made you feel, try to let him or her know. There's no need to go
overboard. Just drop a hint. If you say nothing, your special
someone will wonder if he or she has said something you do not
like.
I have tried to figure out why some of us are so afraid to
express our innermost feelings, our most intimate emotions, why we
are terrified to respond to the loving feelings others express
toward us. Of course, one reason can be that we do not share those
feelings and would just rather not tell the person that such
feelings are not mutual, thereby hurting him or her. That's not
a good idea. It leaves the person, who is expressing his or her
heartfelt emotions, confused, hanging, wondering.
Another reason for not responding to words of love can be
fear. Fear that we are not really that good. We feel we don't
deserve all this praise or affection. This might be because,
throughout our lives, we were never seen as loveable, handsome,
pretty, desirable, or sexually appealing. But when you are loved
by someone, for whatever reason, you become desirable to that
person. And he or she needs to know you have feelings for him or
her, too. Love is a two-way street.
You have to try to give little gifts of love. I don't mean
things, objects. I mean words. Words from you heart. Just
something to let the one who loves you know he or she is making you
feel loved.
Too often when someone says he or she wants to hug us or kiss
us, we might think this is just a need for sex or a desire on the
other person's part to feel reassured that he or she is sexy. But
is that what all this is really all about? It very well might be.
But if you are a pet owner, how often do you hug and kiss your pet?
My cat is always getting hugged or kissed by me. This isn't about
sex. It's about love. My cat and I are very close. We respect
each other and show affection for each other. There is a need in
both of us for that closeness that has nothing to do with sex. I
agree lovers are not pets or animals. Well, not all are. ;-)
Maybe some are some of the time. It does get confusing!
Seriously, we need to try to show our feelings for each other.
We need to open ourselves up to the man or woman we love, and who
loves us. I know this is not easy. Many of us have been badly
hurt by those we thought we could trust. We have been used and
abused. Some of us have been emotionally and sexually exploited.
All I can say is we have to go slow, get to know the one who says
he or she loves us, and try to develop trust. Trust for him or
her, and trust for our own feelings. I don't mean you have to say
things like, "I want to tear your clothes off and make passionate
love with you." But try to say things like, "You make me feel
loved." Your man or woman friend needs to feel he or she is making
you feel good. A good man or woman will probably stop saying these
affectionate things to you if he or she doesn't get some positive
feedback from you when he or she says them. Without that feedback,
he or she will assume only he or she feels that way. And you do
not. So if you share these feelings of love, say what's in your
heart. By doing so, you'll warm the heart of the person who cares
deeply about you. And he or she will continue to warm yours.

of course, that's my view, and you are encouraged not to agree. yeah, just let me know either or not you agree, via your comments of course.

expensive click

we all love to click photo and get our photos clicked.
here's a real story of an incident happened just recently with a friend's friend.

recently, a friend's friend, (Mr. Aditya Suresh Joshi), age 19, studying in 1st year of engineering, died in Keshvani Hospital, Mumbai. He was admitted in Keshavani Hospital as burned patient.

Reason

4 days back this boy had gone to Amravati (One of the district place located in State of Maharashtra) on study tour. After their study was over, he, his classmates & his teachers, all of them were standing on "Badnera" railway station to catch the train. "Badnera" is the name of the railway station for "Amravati" city.

As soon as they arrived on Badnera Railway station, many of them started taking pictures of their friends using "Mobile Phones" and/or "Digital Camera". One of them complained that, in his camera, he was not able to capture more number of friends in one frame. He was not able to catch the angle. Another boy suggested that let's climb on train boogie and take picture so that all of them can be accommodated in single frame.

At that there was one goods wagon (all of them were oil tankers) train resting between 2 main railway lines.

Kumar Aditya climbed up oil boogie. Above his head, 40,000 volts electrical line was passing through. As soon as he clicked the digital camera? 40,000 volt current passed through the camera flash light to his camera and then from his camera to his fingers and then from his fingers to his body. All this happened within fraction of minutes. Next moment he was thrown from the top. His body was half burned on the spot.

At that time, his father was traveling in Bangkok. His many friends in Pune came to know about this via mobile SMS. They instantly arranged air ambulance in Amravati and his burned body was brought to Keshavani Hospital, Mumbai. i was told that this is the best hospital in Mumbai. For 1 and 1/2 day or so he was talking to his relatives. When he was admitted to the hospital, at that time only, doctor informed his relatives that don't keep great hopes. Because of lot of complex issues in half burned body? He died yesterday morning.

* Now how many of us are aware about this technological threats & dangers? Honestly, Kumar Aditya and his father was not aware. His family was not aware. Our entire friend circle of more than 12,000, we were not aware. Now should we call ourselves as fully educated and fully knowledgeable people? Think of it. Please avoid mobile phones on petrol outlets. Please avoid talking on mobile phones while driving. i also know many of my friends who do not bother about this good suggestion and each one of them have opted for "Chalta Hai Yaar Attitude". Please avoid talking on mobile phones while they are in charging mode. Avoid charging mobile phones near Your bed and/or near wooden furniture. Avoid mobile phones near high voltage electrical lines like railway stations and use flash lights. My friend, his family members and we all friends learned our lesson with loss of young life. Now Would You like to empower Your friends about this accident so as to avoid future accidents? We can save human life by empowering all the IT users who are in Your network? i have done "My Karma {with deep pains & tears in my eyes}" by empowering You about this horrible experience.

farewell

Well, it finally came the moment I had been waiting for… - my farewell from college of my graduation. (the one where I’ve learnt psychology and other subjects, software engeneering is still awaited from a different college).
Yeah, it was my farewell today.
It's almost unbearable, but I’m extremely jubilant because I’m finally moving on, but I can't help myself from reminiscing about the good times with my friends and thinking about how much i’ll miss everything I had here.
All those moments of pulling professor’s leg, completing assignments together, doing practicals in lab, and whole lot are still immaculate on the brain, but the time has come to miss the things that I’ve lived.
I spent a whole lot of fun time learning psychology and other things in this college, it was just an awesome experience and I am not able to admit how can these 3 years can complete that early.

now that it's gone. And maybe I having some regrets too. Perhaps I could have tried a little harder or been a little friendlier,
As I look back on my past experiences I will often have these thoughts, but I think I must not dwell on them.
I must learn from my mistakes and apply what I’ve learned. There are an infinite amount of opportunities in life, and the life has just begun.
Now, We all will get spread in different corners of world, different areas of works, different sets of vicinities, and it’s all going to be change now.
There will be new things to achieve, new challenges to face, new people to meet, and new places to work/study.
While I’m excited for the new upcoming things in my life, I’m sad at the same time for leaving behind something incredible.
It’s a mix bag of emotions, so some expressions of reminding old memories have seeped in the form of poetry.
Here is a hindi poem that I’ve composed for the farewell function held this morning.
It is dedicated to all my friends who have taught me the mean of friendship, shared all sorts of moments with me, and helped me out in different situations of my college life.
Of course I’m not a poet, so what you can least expect from it is a bad poem, but regardless of the bad rhyming, it’s sure that the feelings are entirely genuine.
Remember, it was said by oscar wild,
“All bad poetry springs from genuine feelings”.



kuchh log jo ankhon men rahe dil men rahenge ab,
bas jagah badal rahi hai koi doori nahi hai,
ham aap se mil na sakenge jab dil chahe milna,
faslon ke baad bhi magar mazboori nahi hai.

Jin baaton ko lekar rote thhe
Aaj un par hansi aati hai ,
Na jaane kyon aaj un palon ki yaad bahut aati hai,
Kaha karte thhe badi mushkil se itne saal sah gaya
Par aaj kyon lagta hai ki kuchh pichhe reh gaya,
chahat to bahut hai ki rok loon is waqt ko
Chahaten magar poori ho zaroori nahi hai,
ham aap se mil na sakenge jab dil chahe milna,
faslon ke baad bhi magar mazboori nahi hi.

woh baat baat men aapka meri taang khincha karna
Sirf sir khane keliye mera peecha karna ,
woh do do rupye keliye bachchon sa ladna,
exams ke dino men raat raat bhar padna,
Yoon to ye sabh kuchh ab bhi chalega
Magar aapki kami kaun poori karega,
Raaton me hoga aapki yaadon ka andhera,
Roshan ho raaten zaroori nahi hai,
ham aap se mil na sakenge jab dil chahe milna,
faslon ke baad bhee magar mazboori nahi hai.

KAUN mere bag se bina poochhe chocolate khaega
Kaun mere naye naye naam banayega,
Kaun fail hone par dilasa dilayega
kaun pass hone par gale se lagayega,
Yoon to karunge ab bhi ham galti
Magar hamko koi danta na karega,
Na jane kaisi hogi zindagi aapke bina,
Humne to woh tasveer bhi ukeri nahi hai,
ham aap se mil na saken jab dil chahe milna,
faslon ke baad bhee magar mazboori nahi hai.

gaano se mere pareshaan kaun hoga,
muje kisi ladki se baat karte dekh hairaan kaun hoga,
Kaun kahega ki tere joke pe hansi nahin aai,
Kaun peeche se bula ke kahega..Aage dekh bhai,
Na jaane ye sabh fir kab hoga,
Keh do doston ye dobaara sabh hoga,
jhoonta hi sahi magar vaada to kardo,
poore ho vade zaroori nahi hai,
ham aap se mil na sakenge jab dil chahe milna
faslon ke baad bhee magar mazboori nahi hai.