True, not everyone is a friend.

Today when so many people we barely know are “friends” on our social networking sites, I am reminded of an episode long time ago. I think I was in class 4 or 5. I knew a girl in my class who I rarely interacted with. She had her own set of friends, belonged to a different state, spoke a different language, and had nothing in common with me. We sat in opposite corners of the classroom. She was short and I was tall, and thus never even stood close to each other in those queues we made during the assembly. The only time I heard her name and her voice was when the teacher took the class attendance every morning and I heard her “present ma’am”.

It so happened that my father happened to know her father, which we discovered accidentally. My father had to go meet her father for some work and asked me if I would like to tag along and visit my friend. I was not very excited at the thought of it and hence decided to stay home.

The rest of the story, we heard from my father. He was at their place when my friend entered to say hi. My father smiled and asked her if she knew he was her school friend’s father. To which she smiled and said yes, and corrected my father saying “Although he is not a friend, he is a classmate”.

My father was very intrigued with the wisdom of a 11 year old. When I heard this, I was angry at first, but later realized that what she said was not to demean or insult me, she just spoke the truth. We must have barely spoken 3 times in school, sat at different corners, never shared or food, never hung out with the same set of friends, and had nothing in common.

Years later, I still appreciate the wisdom of what she said. We use the word “friend” in very general terms, referring to anyone we meet in the train, work with, go to school with, are neighbors with, or even study in the same class with. You go to a class with classmates, go to work with colleagues, and so on. Friend cannot be a generalized word used to describe classmates, colleagues, or contacts. Someone who is not a friend doesn’t necessarily have to be an enemy. But not everyone you are civil to and in good terms with is a friend.

On the same note, it would be interesting to have categories like classmates, colleagues, contacts, neighbors, relatives, etc. on these social networking sites. True, not everyone is a friend.

don't be serious, be sinceer!

I love the compositions of chetan bhagat, and am quite impressed by his philosophy.
Yesterday, when I’ve got a mail in my inbox comprising with a speech of chetan bhagat which he gave in a well known management institute, thought to share it with you as well. Enjoy!
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Don't just have career or academic goals. Set goals to give you a balanced, successful life. I use the word balanced before
successful. Balanced means ensuring your health, relationships, mental peace are all in good order.
There is no point of getting a promotion on the day of your breakup. There is no fun in driving a car if your back hurts.
Shopping is not enjoyable if your mind is full of tensions.
"Life is one of those races in nursery school where you have to run with a marble in a spoon kept in your mouth. If the
marble falls, there is no point coming first. Same is with life where health and relationships are the marble. Your striving is
only worth it if there is harmony in your life. Else, you may achieve the success, but this spark, this feeling of being excited
and alive, will start to die. .......
One thing about nurturing the spark - don't take life seriously. Life is not meant to be taken seriously, as we are really
temporary here. We are like a pre-paid card with limited validity. If we are lucky, we may last another 50 years. And 50
years is just 2,500 weekends. Do we really need to get so worked up? ......
It's ok, bunk a few classes, scoring low in couple of papers, goof up a few interviews, take leave from work, fall in love, little
fights with your spouse. We are people, not programmed devices........." :)
"Don't be serious, be sincere."!!
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Now, I don’t know about you, but I’m pretty impressed by what he said, and tent to agree as well.
it started echoing to my brain, "don't be serious, be sinceer"!

i guess that's life

I had written this sometime in semester 2. I was waiting for a lecture to start when suddenly these thoughts flooded my mind and I put it down on paper..


Sometimes I wonder why things that happen in our lives, happen at all. because some of these things change your life entirely - may be forever. You wish that
some things never happened, or certain other things happened - but what we always forget is that if everything happened our way, wouldn't life become too
predictable and boring? You would just say "I want it that way" and it would happen - no, that's not what life is all about. You need to experience unexpected
things, and derive excitement and happiness from those things, because if there are no challenges, there's no excitement. Challenges come in 3 categories
- easy, difficult, impossible. Those who take on the easy alone have a boring and straight forward life. Those who take on the difficult have a tough but
satisfying life. Those who take on the impossible are remembered forever! (I read this quote somewhere) Always remember - all that happens, happens for
good. If God does not give you everything you want, it is because there is a reason behind it - and it is for your good. Time will teach you everything,
even if you don't understand it at the moment. 'because time is the greatest healer..

I can still relate to what I had written so many months ago.. What I had gone through then is very similar to what I am going through now.. The emotions are the same, the situation slightly different.. I guess that's life!

feeling the same touch

There are some people in our lives who are never away….
you may meet or even talk to them after months or years…but it feels the same… as if you partied together just yesterday!
(gosh, save me from this poetomania!)

Similarly, there are such places…you might visit them after long…but everything feels just the same!
And that’s what I feel for my blog right now. I know I’ve been away for quite sometime but it feels no difference.
I still feel the same connect with all, and hope you all too feel the same affection towards this blog.
well, a warm hello.
Oh yeah, it’s pretty apparent to say warm hello as the winters are approaching all across.
Put your quills out people, i held no responsibility for any disease cause to you due to your carelessness, including swine flew.

confusion unraveled

Ever since I read that book about belief in God, I’ve been thinking which category will I fall in – atheist, thiest, agnostic gnostic???
I always thought and said that I am agnostic… but come to think of it, agnostics are those who are not sure whether they believe in God’s existence… but I am not that… I have full faith in God…but that doesn’t make me theist because I am not religious… I don’t believe in temples and pujas and rituals. So where do I fall?
Yeah, it’s important knowing in, you can’t live in confusion all the life.
If there’s any santa in world, it’s google. so,
I did some googling and found out that I fall in the category of ‘Agnostic Theism’, which
is also known as ‘Spiritual Agnosticism’.
wow! I did not know myself that scientifically ever before this!
I like that
That’s just what I am… Some relief there now!
so finally, confusion unraveled.

:p

So , the last time I wrote something here , was a time when Kapil Dev was in polka dotted diapers and dinosaurs used to prance around the earth with gay abandon . Ok , that’s a slight exaggeration about the extent of my absence , but you get the drift. Right?

Absenteeism reasons , though I assume you care more about the dirt stuck under the nail on your left little finger than my absenteeism reasons , range from being busy with a domesticised and less grandiose version of that part of Kabhi Khushi Kabhi Ghum where Bacchan Saab tells SRK that he must not marry Kajol ( Oh yeah , now this is the part which makes my female friends go "oh wow ! Bata na Bata na ") , to , settling in a job where the best part of my day remains hitting the coffee button on the sputtering machine or discovering the OS on my laptop has crashed.

Whatever that, days were so chaotic these days, so I had been working too much and roving almost all across the India.
Believe me, it just feels nice when you get back to your home sweet home after long, there’s nothing more pleasing then that.
Yeah, the works are ever going, I’ll be going out and coming in always, all that required is your continuance on this blog.
I am lost with ideas on what to post, and you know that’s a genuine problem with me.
Until I come back with something cool soon, stay tuned and enjoy.

I , my friend , will want to see your face

So I don't talk about you anymore
And they say things will be better than before
So I live another day , hoping they are right
But now , I lie awake , in this cold November night

I think about you and I believe
that when it's time for me to leave
And the sounds of life are defeated by a silent grace
I , my friend , will want to see your face

You trusted me without a why
And I said I am your shade when the sun is high
You just smiled and did not doubt
My false promises kept the reality out


But when the wolves arrived , you saw me depart
And now , the shards of those promises bleed my heart
and When the lady called life loosens her embrace
I , my friend , will want to see your face

Do you hate me now , I do not know
Do you regret knowing a man so shallow
Does it disgust you to remember my voice
Will you live it again , if given a choice

I think you wont , And I see the reason
But I still wish , though guilty of treason
And when the glow of a setting sun fills the space
I , my friend , will want to see your face

You dont let go of your dreams
For a whisper of love can drown all the screams
I know that to talk of love , I have no right
But sometimes you see something only when it is out of sight

So wherever you are , give love another chance
Let it fill your heart , do it's divine dance
As for me ..when the angels of death carry me to a darker place
I , my friend , will want to see your face


Whoa ! Chill Yaaro . There was a bunch of really verbal Punjabi dogs right outside my window at 4.30 in the morning , and since they wont let me sleep , decided to see if I can rhyme words . So chill . It takes something as grave as back to back screenings of Karz and Phoonk to depress me . Dissociations with the female variety of Homo Sapiens aint that bad for me . And all the angry guys commenting here , You are always fun to have around .

only thinking that matters

it all depends on what you think about any particular topic, point or situation.
here's a little poem that you may like:

If you think you are beaten, you are,
If you think you dare not, you don’t,
If you’d like to win, but you think you can’t,
It’s almost certain you won’t!

If you think you’ll lose, you’re lost,
For out in the world we find,
Success begins with a fellow’s will,
It’s all in the state of mind!

If you think you’re outclassed, you are,
You’ve got to think high to rise,
You’ve got to be sure of yourself,
Before you’ll ever win the prize!

Life’s battles don’t always go,
To the stronger or faster man,
But sooner or later the man who wins,
Is the one who thinks he can!