I had always been a great admirer of friendship and have treated it the most wonderful endowment by god.
While it’s the most difficult job of the world to defined what friendship is, life becomes extremely easy and enjoyable by the presence of friends.
Specially, true friends are top on the cards and they are someone you can share all the happiness and sorrows, dance for them, cry for them, help them without expecting for any acknowledgement, call them whenever you feel it like, scold them for no reason to something extremely serious, spend hours with them, yet feel like scarcity of time, trust them even after living remotely, someone who’s tears hurts, someone who’s smile relishes, so on, so on, and so on.
As I said, it’s just not possible for anyone to define what those good/true friends are.
So, it’s always great to have such friends in your life, but what if the friend is of opposite sex?
Ok, it doesn’t matter much, but while the chemistry with you and the other person is cooking nicely, many a times the friendship starts converting to a feeling of love.
There isn’t any problem to have your best/true friend as a lover, but here, the problem is not why should you love him/her, it’s about how to assure yourself whether that’s the love, and most importantly, how to express the same to the person.
While you claim that you have a nice understanding with your friend, you find it almost impossible to figure out whether the other person too feels love for you or it’s just a pure friendship.
Expressing your love to someone is itself not a easy job, but if you need to express it to a best/true friend, it’s certainly one of the hardest things.
Milians of questions bumps in mind like
Is it the love really that I’m feeling?
Does the person too love me?
Should I express it to him/her?
What if the person doesn’t feel the same and refuse?
How would I bare if the expression of love will create complications in our nice friendship?
There may be lots of such questions which hovers around, and you find yourself in bewildered state of mind.
The biggest fear is about losing the current friendship in case of refusal from his/her side, and this is what I’d like to point in here.
I just would like to ask a simple and straight forward question,
How to express your love to a very good/best/true friend, considering the scenario I’ve given above?
How to make sure that there won’t be any problem in your current friendship even if the person refuses the proposal?
Or, what do you think, shouldn’t one express his/her feeling of love to that friend?
you can write your answer in comments section, it may help a lot of folks including me!
Monday, February 22, 2010
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dear you should certainly at least let her/ him know of your feelings for her/ him in your heart. but this is compulsory for the geis; whereas for gals might differ in accordance to their social and especially family atmosphere. you understand? mostly in the society it's prevailant that if a girl is rejected in a relationship by a gai it's frustrating for her to get along to be with the family and the society's comments.whereas on the other hand for a gai it's not even taken in care that who he is roaming with or with how many is he being with.a true friend is that jwel which no one should either reject or let go off. because it's fortunate to lead life with a true friend in the form of a life parterner. so i suggest if even the girl is not iniciating due to her shyness or the things i have talked above, you being a gai should propose her, and believe me every girl wants to have her best male friend as a life partener.wishing you the very best for getting ready for to propose her.
the lover himself is asking!
"It is better to have loved and lost than never to have told at all."
A friend, with whom you can talk anything from sex to sensex anytime, how to catch and assure whether she loves or not is what the greatest difficulty is.
I’m still confused on how to express. Unfortunately, I’m too scared to lose such an invaluable friendship , and that’s why I’m worried to cause any problem that may affect it. I don’t disagree that if that friendship is really as strong as it feels, then you will never loose her as friend, but i think it may lead to some undesirable changes in the way you used to communicate or deal with each others. For example, when I’ll casually say “you’re looking beautiful”, she may suspect the statement in a different manner then. While previously she might had never worried about it, she may then be pretty concern staying a night with me in case of any reason, even a casual singing of romantic song that I’m singing may give some other mean to her, and in the shed of these and other stuff, when she’ll recall my proposal of love, I’m scared losing the actual soul from the friendship which used to be there previously. So, what to do? Is there any way out?
go ahead man! life is not so long to think and deliberate so much. She is ur true friend; and will surely understand your feeling and point of view!
and remember my words: "one should have no regrets in life"
Good luck
may be she is waiting for you to initiate!!! :)
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